Sunday, June 14, 2020

Marvel and us

I always knew that I was born to be a mother. I have two beautiful children who give me
everything I could ever ask for. But somehow, I felt that if I had a pet, it would really make
a difference. To me. To the kids. To the family. And I knew for a fact that pets are harder
than children. Why, you ask? Because children grow up at some point in time and ask
for what they want. Course, after a while, that can also be a problem because they
never stop asking. 

But with a pet, I knew that it would be a whole new ball game altogether. Did I mention
my kids have wanted a pet forever? But I always kept postponing it. I told them that we
are not ready. And we were not. If they cannot put their toys and books back in its place
if they cannot brush their teeth twice a day and make their to-do list regularly, how could
they take care of the pet? 

So we wrote down a list of things that they needed to do to convince me that they can
handle a pet. The fact that they made a list and started working on it encouraged me.
It was my turn to do what I promised. I reached out to Rajeshwari. I had only a million
doubts which she was super sweet enough to patiently clarify. We decided to adopt a kitten. 

Many people wondered why we would pick a kitten over a puppy. But something told me
that a kitten would be our choice. Kids also wanted one. And Rajeshwari sent us the picture
of one. And we fell in love with him instantly. If anyone tells you that love, at first sight,
is not true, do not believe them. Seeing as we are huge superhero fans, we decided to
name him Marvel. He had Marvel written all over his face in that picture. Cute innocent
eyes yet with a touch of mischief. Big and round, staring into the camera like he was posing. 

Marvel came home within four days. My kids - aged 12 and 7 - were jumping with joy.
We had also requested Raje to send us a litter box and some food for him. The first two
days, it was more about letting him get adjusted to the new environment and telling the
kids to give him the space he needed to get to know us. We introduced Marvel to the
bedroom - where he would be with us. He found some sweet spots inside a cupboard
that we vacated and a cardboard box. He slowly started walking the house and then
came to us on his own. 

My husband took his time to get adjusted to the kitten at home. But Marvel found his way
into everyone’s heart. My husband was no exception. Now Marvel walks around like he owns
the place. He demands attention when he wants it. Else he plays with his toys and sleeps
when and where he wants. More often than not, he cuddles up next to us and sleeps during
the day. He is happy to jump on my lap and ask me to massage him casually while he drifts
off to what looks like a dreamless sleep. He knows that he has to sleep in his place in the night.
He waits for me to pick him up in the morning and then gives me the warmest licks and snuggles
up to me for two minutes before demanding food. 

Marvel does not like to be alone. He makes sure that we are always in the room with him.
He is a lot of fun to be around and brings us so much happiness and laughter. He’s a naughty
one, always trying to climb anything he can. He’s full of life and adventure. And when he looks
at you, you cannot help yourself. You will want to pick him up and cuddle him. ‘Course if you do
not understand what he is trying to say, you will get it from him. He is very articulate in his own way. 

Marvel is an excellent addition to my family. My kids help me take care of him. They clean his
litter box, feed him and always keep an eye on him. He keeps an eye on us too. We are truly a
family in every sense of the word. 

Indu Balakrishnan 

Friday, April 3, 2020

Being a Mom AND being sane during the Lock Down

The above title looks like an oxymoron, doesn’t it? I mean, how does one do both and get out of it with due credit?
This is quite a new territory for most of us young moms. I think the last time this happened, Indira Gandhi had declared emergency or something like that. Even during the floods, we still could go out and watch the rains. This is something none of us would have ever even thought to prepare for.
People usually say that about parenting. You can’t read it in a book and become good parents. You need to experience it. But at least, you try to prepare for it.
The lockdown during the COVID-19 is not just unexpected; it’s one of the biggest challenges that I have had to face in recent times.
You see these forwards floating around.
Husbands working from home
Children indoors
Malls closed
Movies closed
No outside food
Wishing strength to all the women to deal with this sudden calamity.
And there is so much truth to it. Yes. It’s now tough to be a mom AND stay sane. And while we take some sort of fun and pleasure in these forwards, it’s time to think of MANY ideas to fall upon and try out.
Because, unless we are relatively sane, no one else in the house will be.
And that is a fact.
So here go some of the things I have tried.
  • School is not the only place of education. We can use this month to make them understand what else goes on at home. It is time to dispel the myth that elves from the wizarding world cook meals before they wake up or clean up after them when they go to school. Let the children be a part of everything that takes place at home. From little things like making the bed to bigger things like cooking and laundry.
  • Send them to their rooms to learn to be with themselves. With no homework or deadlines or classes, the time is theirs for them to do what they like. It could be a hobby like art or something practical, like balancing a cheque book. Kiddle (visual search engine for kids) is their oyster. Let them figure it out. Course, we are welcome to guide them — just a guide — from far.
  • It seems natural to make the kids do something. The trick is to make them do nothing. It might be a tad tough on us moms as well, but if we get past that phase; the road ahead is bliss. We won’t be the house jester. And hello sanity!
  • Get them a diary. Let them calendarize their day. And make them end it with a gratitude note. We, as moms, need to realise that some things are not taught but learnt on their own. Their ability to schedule their day and appreciate something at the end of it will go a long way.
  • Connecting with family over Skype calls or WhatsApp calls is a good idea. The care that comes with making sure that everyone is alright goes a long way. And soon, this would become a practice. In this day and age, when everyone connect only during events, this is an excellent habit to develop.
  • This one worked for me very well. We adopted a stray cat and her kittens. Kids learnt to take care of their food, watch out for them during the day (while keeping a distance of course) and making sure that they were alright. This responsibility came willingly, and they spent quality time being with each other and watching out for someone else.
We need to bring balance. Spend time with the kids and balance that with making them learn to entertain themselves. We need to make sure that they do not come running to us the moment they are bored and looking for us to entertain them.
At some point, we need to let go. For their good too, not just ours.
This lockdown has taught us many things. One of the takeaways for moms is that mollycoddling kids could do more harm than good. Sending them to camps and classes might be good for them but teaching them to entertain themselves and learn how to occupy themselves without the help of TVs, video games and mobile phones is the trick.
While teaching them how to be, us moms should also learn the same — Just be. Being together under the same roof and being independent.
And we find our sanity. Knowing that not only are our kids safe, they are independent.
Stay Safe, Stay home, Stay sane!

Saturday, February 29, 2020

Full-stack developer: 2020’s popular tech-job

Let’s take a look at the scenario from the company’s point of view. They have this project in mind. They are bringing together experts in various areas to complete that one project. The amount of coordination between the different experts could get tedious. Deadlines get pushed. Miscommunication is on the rise. Ego comes into play. 

Would the company avoid that if they could? 

The answer is yes. Now, what if they could find that ONE person who could do it all
end-to-end. He knows exactly what’s happening at different levels. There is no time,
data or effort lost in communication. And the company could probably save costs as well. 

Now let’s understand the resource. The key talent that is appointed to take up the role.
He is a full-stack developer. He is versed with different technologies and is very much capable
of solving glitches across several streams of app and web development single-handedly. 

And he knows his worth. 

This is the scenario in the industry. Companies are explicitly hiring full-stack developers, who
can create apps from scratch and can actively participate throughout the development journey
of the application. 

This key resource is the jack of all trades. His position is valuable to the company, and they
will be treated with care and a lucrative salary. 

This seems to be a win-win situation for both the company and the key resource. This explains
why the full-stack developer is one of the most popular and in-demand jobs in the upcoming 2020. 

Why would you not want to take this up? Why would you not want to be that key resource? 

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