As per you, what are the inputs for maintaining and
nurturing a happy relationship?
Happy relationship. People who have not had the luck of
being in one will call it an oxymoron. It is very much real. It does very much
exist. Most people can have it. Nothing comes easy in life does it? If you want
a promotion at work, you take on extra load. If you want strong muscles, you
lift extra weight. The same theory applies to relationships as well. If you
want a happy and satisfying relationship, you will have to work on it. You will
have to put in your share. On the not-so-good days, you will have to put in
more than your share to make it work. It is always worth it.
What do you need to put in to make the relationship a good
one? There should be a genuine bond. A real connection. While dating is good
and fun, a relationship is taking things to the next level. A good relationship needs to be nurtured like
a plant.
Companionship – it is the most undervalued yet highly
important factor that differentiates between a good relationship and a
nurturing one. Yes, the sex can be good and yes you can have good times. The key
to a real relationship is when the people involved are truly companions to each
other, and not just someone to while away time with. When there is good companionship and trust,
the sex is naturally good.
Time –Spending time with each other is the best way to show
your appreciation. Buying a bling or a gadget to make the other person happy always
works, but it is a very temporary emotion. While happiness is a state of mind,
satisfaction is where you want to be. The feeling of contentment can arise with
the meeting of the minds, which can happen only when time, not money is spent. The
answer is in honest and open communication. “The strongest of all warriors are
these two – time and patience”.
Vulnerability – it is ok to be vulnerable to the other
person. Displaying your weakness is a very good thing. You are not afraid of showing
the other person who you are and what you are thinking. Talking to each other
and opening your hearts out is a sure fire way of making things click. Knowing that
the other person is always going to be there for you, no matter what, is
something every good relationship has.
Trust – when you are vulnerable with the other person, you
are telling them that you trust them. You are handing over your remote to them.
They know all your buttons but you trust them not to push them. Trust in a
relationship opens up to a whole new world of pleasure.
Love – “All you need is love”, said John Lenon. When there
is love in a relationship, there is always an inclination to make things work
out. When you like someone, you are expressing
what you feel. When you love someone, it is about them. When you love someone,
you want what’s best for them. You will always tend to put the other person
before you. Wanting to see them happy will be the motivation. This formula can
almost never go wrong. This is because they are safe in your hands. They know
it too.
Laughter – There is a beautiful quote “They told me that to
make her fall in love, I had to make her laugh. But every time she laughs, I’m
the one who falls in love”. You might not be able to fall in love with someone
who does not make you laugh. Laughter is most definitely the best medicine. Both
the physical body and the mind feel better. The endorphins that are released when
you laugh from the bottom of your heart make you feel good about yourself. Fun
and laughter go hand in hand.
From initial attraction to a long term deep relationship,
laughter is always an essential ingredient. In a serious situation, it will
diffuse the tension. Sharing a good laugh with your better half is very likely
to improve your relationship with them.
A smile – a smile can really go a long way. While a good
joke can make you laugh, small gestures can make you smile. Sharing happy
moments together do strengthen a bond. It helps you beat the bad times. The good
times are worth everything else that the universe can throw at you.
Gestures – End of the day, it is the little things that
matter. Smile at your significant other. Greet them with a hug. Open the door
for them. Breakfast in bed goes a long way. Going for a small walk in the
evening, holding hands is good therapy. Be nice. Chivalry isn’t dead.
Make-up – Fighting isn’t the end of the world. All couples
fight. It is the willingness to come together and make it work is what will
make the relationship last. Making up can be fun too, besides.
The first thing everyone talks about is being in love with
the other person. But when the other person is your best friend, there is
nothing better than that, is there. You can
always be yourself with your best friend. When you fall in love with your best
friend, or when the one you love becomes your best friend, you are looking at
your soul mate.
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